The Domestic Church - Making the Stations of the Cross for our Domestic Liturgy

Last night we tried something new. Something we had never needed to do before or ever planned to do. We took it for granted that our Churches would always be open! Although we have always immensely valued the Domestic Church, we had never imagined that it was going to be (at least for a time) the exclusive centre of our Faith.

So here we are with a community of people, small and big, depending on us parents, to guide them through this desert, holding on to us, holding on to the Faith passed onto to us from our parents,  knowing that  “where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I  among them.” – Matthew 18:20

As it was Friday in Lent we would have attended the "Stations of the Cross' devotion in the Parish...Instead we put up our handmade stations around the house, beginning in the kitchen and ending in the little girls’ bedroom, and set off on a journey around our domestic Jerusalem. 

The younger children learnt the responses and Pierpaolo, - the Bishop of the Domestic Church-  led the liturgy and sang the verses from the Stabat Mater. 

Lucia held a candle in front of each station as we moved through the house. 

It was a beautiful moment of prayer and one we’ll do again on Good Friday.

How we made the Stations of the Cross:

I wanted something easy for the children to put together, something they needed little help to do but where the final result would be nice and tidy! So as we had been learning about Stained Glass window techniques I thought that kind of pattern could work.

I ordered some downloadable  patterns  and we started this project hoping for a good result as well as finally learning the order of the Stations.

We printed the pattern to fit an A4 Sheet and the children then traced the image with a black Sharpie onto (let's call it side B) of a piece of tracing paper.

We tested a great number of types of paint but decided that children's liquid Acrylics worked best. We also painted on side B

It took the girls a very long time to paint them all, and everyone - or most of us - had to, at some point, help with the painting as we had to finish them in time for our family liturgy (so make sure to give yourself 3 days to complete this project or a whole afternoon with no interruptions).

Once the the paint was dry, we turned the pictures over to the side you are meant to see (Side A) and I applied a very thin layer of gold leaf glue to the halos and swords and after a few seconds applied gold leaf to each picture (Gold paint would also work). I did the same with swords using Silver leaf instead. This really lifted the pictures and brought the colours to life. 

We cut the pictures following the circle of the pattern and glued them onto some brown card, I had laying around, where we had pre cut a smaller circle than the picture to allow light to come through the tracing paper from the back.

Elena, wrote the number of each station directly below the picture on the brown card with a Gold Sharpie. We then applied gold leaf on the Roman Numerals as well as the borders, once again, applying a very thin layer of glue, waiting for a few seconds and applying the leaf with the intent to have an 'antique look' of Gold coming off and missing in some parts.

The Family Liturgy was very moving and because it wasn't static and was done by candlelight the younger ones found it fascinating. 

We started from the kitchen, at the heart of our domestic life, and went around the downstairs rooms then up the stairs to calvary. We strategically finished the procession in the yourger children's bedroom, naturally accompanying them to bed. 

The girls were put in bed, the candle was blown out and we experienced a sort of bitter sweet joy, longing for something we never knew would be hidden from us for a time.

     

Fish Friday - 10 Minute Sicilian Courgette and Prawn Pasta

10-minute courgette and prawn pasta sauce.

Serves 6-8

This is a great recipe I learnt in Sicily from a little fish restaurant where we go on holiday. It's super quick and tasty so put the water for the pasta on to boil while you're making the sauce.

Ingredients:

Olive oil 

Garlic 

Courgettes 

Uncooked prawns

Tinned cherry tomatoes 

Cut the courgette into small matchsticks. Dice a clove of garlic and fry in olive oil until golden.

Add the courgettes and fry them quickly while stirring until they are soft.

 Add a tin of cherry tomatoes and season with salt and pepper.

 Add prawns and simmer until the prawns are pink (don't overcook the prawns or they'll become rubbery)!

Serve ideally with casarecce or if you can't find them then with penne and add some chilli oil for some extra bite.

Buon appetito!

How We Pray, Fast and Give During Lent

The past few weeks have brought a little taste of Lent as well as an anticipation of the joy of the Paschal Mystery. One of my dear sisters in law gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, who lived an hour, was baptised and was then born to Eternal Life.

The day after the baby died we celebrated Elena's 12th birthday, today is Virginia's 5th birthday as well as the baby's burial and Mattia will be 15 in a week's time...It has been a real rollercoaster of emotions of joy tinted with sadness.

It is when death touches your family so closely that life gains a different perspective, that suddenly the many superficial aspects of living that seemed once quite important appear insignificant and all you are left with is your Faith.

Everything passes but the love of God endures for ever. We don't have much of our own to give to our children and yet we have the greatest heritage of all to pass on... The certainty that life with the Lord is the key to happiness in this world and in the next.

Christ died, was buried, rose from the dead and He is seated at right hand of God the Father Almighty. Death has been destroyed so that we also may have access to eternal life. 

The beauty of the tradition of the Church is that like a mature mother who has seen it all before, she guides us through our life, she has the right words and customs for the right moment and season. She had beautiful words of consolation and encouragement during the funeral and during Lent she knows how to prepare our spirit to fully enter the Paschal Mystery.

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 'Ash Wednesday' will soon be upon us and marks the beginning of Lent, although it is not a holy day of obligation, missing the service would be a real pity.  The ashes are made from the palms of the previous year's Palm Sunday and are blessed by the priest, with these a sign of the cross is imposed by the minister on the forehead of all the faithful as he pronounces the words from Genesis "Remember, that you are dust, and to dust you shall return" (there are alternative texts but this is the best one!). We face another Lent, another opportunity to repent and change our ways... another year that finds us in a new situation.

Another 40 days of preparation in which we remember the 40 days and 40 nights Jesus spent fasting in the desert.

Fasting, Almsgiving and Prayer during Lent 

Scripture tells us that in the wilderness Jesus was tempted. These are the same temptations that each of us faces in our daily life, to fall under the power of the three great enemies of the Christian life: the world, the flesh and the devil. To combat these enemies the Church has traditionally given us three weapons; prayer, fasting and almsgiving. 

Temptation of the flesh: 

Jesus fasted forty days and forty nights, and afterwards he was hungry.  And the tempter came and said to him, “If you are the Son of God, command these stones to become loaves of bread.” 

 The first temptation is the one of lust... the devil invites Jesus to satisfy the desires of the body, to act against the will of the Father, to reject God's own time and to provide there and then rather than to wait, trust and be fed by God. To this temptation Jesus answers is 'Man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.

To help us and to be ready to overcome this temptation the Church offers us the weapon of Fasting. To fast means to abstain, to deprive your body, usually of food and/or drink. We do this in order to train our body not to be driven by its needs, by what it asks for but to learn to wait... so that the body can be ready in front of greater sins. Fasting is also an ideal practise for the mortification of the flesh and the calming of the passions. When we fast we acknowledge that we do not live by bread alone but by every word that comes from the mouth of God'.

How we, as a family fast during Lent:

We fast as individuals and also as a family. Each one of us will give up something very specific. The boys will usually stop playing with their Xbox, the girls will give up chocolate and sweets; no TV for anyone (except on Sunday) and a Lenten film night at the weekend helps us to replace leisure with spiritual nourishment. There won't be any wine on the table, no drinks other than water. Simpler meals and only fruit instead of a dessert to finish our meals. Friday meals will alternate between a fish based supper and bread and water which, for some bizarre reason, the children find a very exciting meal.

Temptation of the devil: Then the devil took him to the holy city, and set him on the pinnacle of the temple,  and said to him, “If you are the Son of God, throw yourself down; for it is written,‘He will give his angels charge of you,’and ‘On their hands they will bear you up,lest you strike your foot against a stone.’

How many times have we found ourselves putting God to the test, how many times have we doubted His Providence, in His love for us and how many times have we rebelled and fought against His plan... 

 Jesus said to him, “Again it is written, ‘You shall not tempt the Lord your God.’”

Sin began through Eve's dialogue with the devil. And our own sins and rebellions against God also begin in a dialogue with the devil, it's not fair... why me? why is my husband like that? Why is the money never enough? Prayer is the powerful weapon given by our mother Church to switch from a dialogue with the devil to a dialogue with God.

Vocal prayer, meditation and contemplative prayer are the three most important ways of praying. Prayer should be at the centre of our family life and even more in such strong liturgical moments. 

As Saint Therese of Lisieux writes Prayer is an aspiration of the heart, it is a simple glance directed to heaven, it is a cry of gratitude and love in the midst of trail as well as joy; finally, it is something great, supernatural, which expands my soul and unites me to Jesus. 
Saint John Vianney adds In prayer we receive a foretaste of heaven and something of paradise comes down upon us. Prayer never leaves us without sweetness. It is honey that flows into the souls and makes all things sweet. When we pray properly, sorrows disappear like snow before the sun.
Saint Ignatius of Loyola reminds us We must speak to God as a friend speaks to his friend, servant to his master; now asking some favour, now acknowledging our faults, and communicating to Him all that concerns us, our thoughts, our fears, our projects, our desires, and in all things seeking His counsel.'


How we pray as a family during Lent:
Every evening, after cleaning the kitchen the family gathers in the sitting room to pray the Rosary. 
We will try to attend daily Mass as a family or separately and weekly Adoration.
For the first time as the children are now older we will spend some time with them studying scripture (Lectio Divina).

The temptation of the world: Again, the devil took him to a very high mountain, and showed him all the kingdoms of the world and the glory of them; and he said to him, “All these I will give you, if you will fall down and worship me.”
Though the world is a beautiful place, we are not of this world. It is very easy to lose sight of the Kingdom and to seek wealth, fame, power, recognition, praise and worldly perfection. Perhaps we are not aiming to take over the world but in our own domains at home or at work these are easily recognisable temptations. 

Almsgiving ( In Greek eleemosyne, "pity," "mercy") Jesus speaks about money an awful lot, more than we find comfortable, and you'll notice how often people will talk about almsgiving and immediately offer alternatives to money be it time or prayer, charities will ask for your old clothes, your unused items, old mobiles, all good things but sometimes you just need to put your hand in your pocket and take out some hard cash, it's a whole different experience. No one places their security in old clothes but in money... yes. 

How we practise almsgiving as a family during Lent:

I won't be able to disclose what we do as  it is written 'But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing', but here is a practical suggestion... Decide ahead on a Charity or a charitable cause you would like to donate money towards. Talk about it with the children and get them to decorate a little lenten box to keep around the house with easy access. During the 40 days of Lent put money in the box. Everyone gives as much or as little as he can and above all in secret. Money given through charities is great but some unmediated giving is also good, look a homeless person in the eye and give them some money. Do you know a family who is struggling? Drop them an envelope anonymously.

As Pope St John Paul II wrote, the three weapons of prayer, fasting and almsgiving are a powerful aid to progress in holiness, helping to master and correct the inclinations of human nature wounded by sin, indispensable if we are to remain faithful and follow Jesus on the way of the cross. (Vita Consecrata 38)

  Then Jesus said to him, “Begone, Satan! for it is written,

‘You shall worship the Lord your God

and him only shall you serve.’”

11 Then the devil left him, and behold, angels came and ministered to him.

Lenten Failings, Easter Risings

On Sunday we entered the 5th Week of Lent! I feel like this Season has gone by very quickly. It was only yesterday we were putting away the masks for 'Mardi Gras' and tidying up from Elena's Birthday.

Holy Week is upon us, and the preparations for Easter are beginning in earnest, the spring cleaning is about to start, the Paschal candle needs to be prepared for the Vigil, music needs to be prepared for the Triduum, our Parish Easter Garden needs to be assembled, the Easter eggs are on the shopping list and so is the Lamb, the traditional Sicilian Easter Pecorella (Marzipan Easter lamb) will be finished at the weekend. (photos of all this to come)

But among all this busyness is the soul ready? Lent seems so long at the beginning but when Palm Sunday arrives there is always the feeling that more could have been done! 

I had such plans for Lent 2016... on Ash Wednesday, all the family was supposed to go together to receive the ashes... but the night before all 3 girls got a horrible 'tummy bug', the Boys ended up going in the morning with their school and Pierpaolo and I went to evening Service... alone. My plans for Lent had already failed and that was only day 1. As usual I was called to Serve my family at home in the midst of sickness rather than at a beautiful Church service...  Cleaning up after my children felt far from holy and transcendent.

I'd planned for the Rosary every day and it didn't really happen, some Rosaries were offered and one in particular will remain with us for a long time. 

The Stations of the Cross happened 2 out of 4 times so far, but the idea was not to miss any. Failure number 3!

Only an hour of TV or XBox was allowed each day... but sometimes my need for peace and quiet after work would allow that to stretch into longer. Failure number 4.

On the other hand, we have been given many graces like going on a family Pilgrimage for the 'Year of Mercy' and we managed to do our Lentathon for the 24 hours for the Lord ... but these are moments you receive as a gift from heaven.

The temptation is always to feel that you have failed. That you have not even lived up to those things that you had promised to do and so arrive at Easter unworthy and unready. Yet this is the beauty of Easter, Christ welcomed the repentant thief who changed his ways at the very last moment. In the same way, however little we have managed to do in this season, it is never too late and Christ is ready open armed to receive us and bring us with him through his passion on towards his resurrection.